I feel like, sometimes, us 20-somethings go through a particular period in life and think "no one has ever experienced what I'm going through right now, especially our mom! She couldn't possibly feel what I'm feeling, because I am sooooo unique." While you may be unique, and your situation is not "normal", chances are, your mom or her friends have gone through the exact same thing. Only in the 80's with crazy curly hair and neon outfits.
My mom and her three friends came out to New York this weekend for their annual girl's trip. These ladies all met in Med School at Creighton decades ago, and are still the best of friends to this day. They could not be more different from each other, but I think that's what makes their friendships stronger. For the past several years, they've started carving out a weekend to specifically hang out with each other.
Since they were coming to New York this year, I got to join in! These women were literally in the room when I was born (some actually helping with the birth!), so I've always grown up with them as my non-genetic aunts. It turned out to not only be so much fun, but perfect timing for their visit. I learned so much from these women, so I thought I would share what a 20-something learned from her mom and her friendships:
What you talk about at 25, is the same thing you'll be talking about at 50+, and yes, that includes sex.
Your friendships with the women in your life will outlast any other relationship, especially a romantic one.
You will go through a lot in life. A lot. More than you ever thought. Have an open mind, and respect everyone's journey.
Whatever you think you've been through, your mom and her friends have been through so much more.
You don't have to lose who you are when you become a parent.
Everyone has messed up families, backgrounds, and life situations, and that's okay.
You're life doesn't have to end when you have kids, get married, or even if/when you get divorced. There's always moments worth living for.
No matter how much you think you are alone in a certain situation, there is always someone near you that has gone through the same thing.
Never lose interest in your girlfriends. They're the best people to provide guidance, a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen to, and snarky comments that make you laugh.
Invest in your friendships, and yourself. Your kids will thank you one day.
Life is messy, and no one is perfect.
What have you learned from your mom? Share in the comments!
Mom, Jane, Jill and Chrissy, thanks for coming out this weekend! Thank you for including me, teaching me something, and showing me how important friendships are. xoxo.